Understanding why men always want sex can give you a deeper understanding of the dynamics of your relationship. In this article, weโll learn why men want sex all the time, signs that weโre frustrated, and what you can do (from a guyโs perspective).
Why Are Men Always Horny
For men, sex isnโt JUST about the physical. Itโs connected to so many other aspects in our lives like confidence, self-worth, connection, and validation.
For some, itโs a means to feel valued/validated/needed by their partner.
For others, itโs a means of connection. Sure it might be hidden behind all that machismo, but in most, if not every guy, thereโs a need to connect emotionally as well and the physical connection is a means to provide that.
Since sex is rooted in so many aspects of a man’s being, the desire for it seems non-stop.
Signs Your Man Is Sexually Frustrated
Itโs true, men think with their dicks. And weโre not the most emotionally intelligent either. To be honest, Iโm not sure if most men even realize sex is more than just about the physical. But whether itโs realized or not, it canโt be denied otherwise sexual frustration wouldnโt rear its ugly head in all these different ways.
1. Communicating Less
Sex is a means for emotional connection and when thereโs little sex, thereโs going to be little emotional connection. When weโre not feeling connected, you might find that we are not communicating with you as much, or wondering how your day was…you get the idea.
2. Emotionally Unstable (aka Being A Jerk)
Is the once stable and supportive man…no longer stable and supportive? Mood swings much? If his valleys seem lower than normal, the lack of connection stemming from the lack of sex could be destabilizing his emotional core.
3. Heโs Spending More Time On His Hobbies
Do you find that heโs investing more time at the gym? Or golf? With his friends? Work? Not to say he shouldnโt be, but there is a healthy balance and if you feel like heโs not wanting to just be with you, he might not feel as connected with you. The more connected, the more time heโll want to spend with you.
What You Can Do About His Sexual Frustration
1. Although Itโs Not Your Priority, It Might Be His
If his priorities were always placed before yours, that would be horrible. Just how you need communication and emotional support, your partner may need sex. Again, not just for the physicality, but because of everything itโs tied to (validation, emotional connection, and more).
2. We Get Tired Too
Your reasons are ALL VALID. Itโs when the excuses are consistent that it makes us feel less of a man and not wanted. Imagine everyday for a week, if he were too tired to talk about your horrible day? Or even 6 out of the 7 days he was just not emotionally available to you? It would be a horrible feeling and the same applies here. Consistent excuses communicate a lot.
3. Paradigm Shift
Itโs more than just sex for men. Itโs really difficult because men and women often approach connecting with each other on completely opposite sides of the spectrum. This is a generalization, but women find connection through quality time, words of affirmation, emotional support. It draws them closer to their man and it culminates to sex. Men on the other hand, often feel the emotional connection through the physical.
Iโm not proposing that women just give it up to keep a guy happy. Instead, Iโm proposing to see his desire for sex as a desire to be close to you.